jwcolby
jwcolby at colbyconsulting.com
Tue Dec 11 07:05:19 CST 2007
LOL. Yep about the ADHD net being cast far and wide. OTOH all of these things are a spectrum. Yes, males tend to be more active than females but there are also boys that are quiet and boys that can't sit still. Robbie is one of those who can't sit still. And I think Robbie is like your son, on the immature end of that spectrum and on the bright end of that spectrum, which makes it all the harder to sit still. And in the end, society rewards certain behaviors (sitting still / concentrating) and punishes certain behaviors (not doing those things) so it is in the best interest of everyone to help Robbie and others like him learn ways to handle the behaviors that society deems unacceptable. I am also ADHD. As an adult I can see it in my self, and I can intentionally practice those things that help me overcome it (to some extent), mostly impulse control and choosing things that I like to do (as you mentioned with your son). As an adult I get to choose however, children usually can't, and children also have to learn impulse control. I have Robbie enrolled in Karate. That would seem to be the WRONG thing to have a "hyperactive" boy doing but it appears to help. Exercise, concentration, practice, and self control, and the emotional reward of advancing in a skill that not everyone has. He's a great kid, and I feel for his teachers. John W. Colby Colby Consulting www.ColbyConsulting.com -----Original Message----- From: accessd-bounces at databaseadvisors.com [mailto:accessd-bounces at databaseadvisors.com] On Behalf Of Rocky Smolin at Beach Access Software Sent: Tuesday, December 11, 2007 1:19 AM To: 'Access Developers discussion and problem solving' Subject: Re: [AccessD] Access 2007 - Microsoft is just plain stupid. John: I'd take this off-line but I actually don't have your email address. So at the risk of crossing the moderator: When he was six my son couldn't sit still. He was eventually diagnosed with ADHD by a reputable professional. Whereupon we immediately fired her ass. He was emotionally about three years behind and intellectually about three years ahead. Couldn't sit still for 6 minutes. Unless he was really absorbed in something. Then - no time limit. He was eventually diagnosed with ADHD by a reputable professional. Whereupon we immediately fired her ass. Now he's 11 and...normal. Does his homework. Sits at his desk in class. Practices the piano. He was actually the poster child for this: http://www.nashuatelegraph.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20071209/HEALTH/31 2090003 That ADHD net is being cast wide and far. Watch out for this. All boys are "hyper". Some more than others. Visit his class. Watch the girls sit obediently and color. Watch the boys move restlessly around the room. They're a trial. But of course, there's nothing much else really worth doing in life (IMO). Ask Donna Cook. Rocky -----Original Message----- From: accessd-bounces at databaseadvisors.com [mailto:accessd-bounces at databaseadvisors.com] On Behalf Of jwcolby Sent: Monday, December 10, 2007 2:25 PM To: 'Access Developers discussion and problem solving' Subject: Re: [AccessD] Access 2007 - Microsoft is just plain stupid. Susan, in fact everyone does not know the rules. I just discovered the rules a few years ago and I am darned old. Of course I didn't much care back then and don't particularly care now. I have more important things to worry about. We have been working with my six year old son Robbie to "get no marks" at school. He's a hyper little guy and drives his teachers crazy. So we started doing a "no marks for a week and you will get a prize". The teacher was out for a couple of days and the substitute teacher gave him no marks. When the teacher came back, home comes a mark. We are talking to him about the mark and he says "I just can't do it with my teacher. I gotta get her out of there.". Now THAT worries me!!! ;-) John W. Colby Colby Consulting www.ColbyConsulting.com -----Original Message----- From: accessd-bounces at databaseadvisors.com [mailto:accessd-bounces at databaseadvisors.com] On Behalf Of Susan Harkins Sent: Monday, December 10, 2007 5:08 PM To: Access Developers discussion and problem solving Subject: Re: [AccessD] Access 2007 - Microsoft is just plain stupid. Arthur, I think everyone knows the rules. However, sometimes our fingers and brains aren't in synch. It happens to me all the time. I suppose it's up to you whether something like this bothers you, but seems like a waste of good energy to me. ;) Susan H. > Speaking of rants, it irritates the hail out of me when people > incorrectly use "it's" when they intended "its". There is a very > simple rule here: > "it's" is a contraction of "it is", as in "it's raining cats and dogs > and there are poodles all over." 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